Dawn came up after class with the most beautiful, touching
insight – that I just had to explore it a little more than we could in the
moment. She said that she was
thinking of her excess weight as stored energy (not a new idea to her) and
wondered – since it is energy – how could she use it to make a
contribution? How could she make a
gift of this energy? [As opposed
to thinking of it as something to get rid of.] She acknowledged that in an agricultural society, people did
physical work and used most of their energy, and that this is no longer the
case. As she was puzzling over
ideas to appropriately use that stored energy, she thought of biking out to
visit the father of a friend who is home-bound. The thought of making sacred, or making a gift of something
that we may be accustomed to seeing as a bother or a problem intrigues me.
Just that morning, I found out that a zumba class had been
scheduled at the same time as my evening Nia class, only a half hour earlier –
a more desirable time. This is a
worrisome situation for me. I love
my classes so much that I feel grief when I think that my classes may be
cancelled because people prefer the better time or other class. I longed to make a shift that would
allow me to see the gift in this – so Dawn’s insight came at just the right
time for me. (Amazing how that
happens – thank you for sharing it, Dawn!) It
seemed so easy and natural to her when she told me about it. And, we set ourselves up for insights
by showing up, setting the stage with positive expectations (like we do in
wellness coaching), and practice – like we do in class or meditation. So, I’m guessing Dawn has a number of
ways she sets herself up for such a happy insight.
So, techniques I can use to see things differently are:
- Choosing love (instead of fear). The classes are so sweet that it is
easy to see the love there. If the
classes were to end soon, did I love as much as I could, as deeply as I could,
and appreciate everyone as much as I could? None of us knows how much time we have left. Will we leave any love unexpressed,
anyone unacknowledged? What can I
do to share my love and appreciate more.
- Teach every class as if it were the last. Again, we never know. If I knew that this would be my last
day on earth, how would I want to show up?
- Practice being at home in the unknown instead of
worrying about what might, or might not happen. When my mind wants to dwell on the potential loss, stop and
celebrate what I have.
Dawn’s insight adds purpose and meaning to something loaded
with negative feelings for most people.
I’m guessing it allows her to live with a greater sense of peace and the
joy of making a contribution. By
giving her gift of energy – she becomes the gift. I’m hoping my strategies will help me live with greater
peace, love, and passion through this potentially challenging transition.
How could you transform the way you look at a challenge in
your life to find a greater sense of peace and purpose? Feel free to comment.
